Teen/Youth Dating Violence

One in four teens experiences dating abuse

National Teen Dating Violence Helpline is 1-866-331-9474

Teen Dating Violence: The Numbers in Connecticut

It is important to know the signs: Are you in an Abusive Relationship?

Did you Know?

Teen datingAccording to the 2013 Connecticut School Health Survey (CSHS), one in four teens experienced dating abuse.​

  • It occurs too often: In 2013, 26 percent of Connecticut high school students were in a verbally or emotionally abusive dating relationship; 9 percent in a physically abusive dating relationship; and 11 percent in a sexually abusive relationship.
  • It’s effects are long-lasting: Being physically or sexually abused makes teen girls 6x more likely to become pregnant and 2x more likely to get a STD.
  • It is underreported: Only 33% of teens who were in a violent relationship ever told anyone about the abuse.
  • Electronic Dating Violence is increasing:  In 2013, 26% of teens in relationships were victims of cyber dating abuse. Females were twice as likely to be victims as males. Those who share their passwords are three times more likely to become victims.​

An Abusive Dating Partner May…

  • Pressure their partner to make serious commitments early on in the relationship
  • I​solate them: make them feel bad about seeing family, friends, or doing outside activities without them
  • Attempt to control what they wear or who they see
  • Expect their partner to “check in” or answer their phone immediately, excessively text, or use phone GPS locators
  • Transfer blame to the victim, school, sports, other stressors​
  • Be overly sensitive or act hurt when they do not get their way, “You don’t love me anymore”
  • Verbally assault: constant name calling or put downs
  • Intimidate: throw things or punch walls
  • Use force during an argument to restrain movement; yell in their face, or prevent them from from leaving the room

How to Help– Tips on Talking About Dating Violence

  • Express concern and avoid being judgmental
  • Try to be specific about your concerns. Tell them it is not their fault, only the batterer controls the abuse
  • Build their confidence- let them know it is brave to speak to someone
  • Do not put conditions on your support- friends may be wary of sharing details of their relationships, or fear that you will be angry or upset with them
  • Refer them to their local Domestic Violence program

A Heathy Relationship is…

  • Sharing and listening
  • Deciding things together
  • Equality
  • Support
  • Being respectful
  • Honoring each other
  • Showing affection
  • Giving compliments

Abuse grows in silence.  If you suspect you are a victim, or that a teen in your life is a victim , call our  IH Hotline at 860-527-0550 or our Spanish Hotline at 1-844-831-9200.

We’re here to help!
You are worth it!

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